..we are taught to put fun and serious pursuits on a continuum as opposed extremes, when this dichotomy is entirely false, made even worse when we act as though we can instantly exchange one for the other.. Exerting yourself at a task that is serious and rewarding can still be quite fun, but doing something fun because you have a neurotic need to pack your life full of un is pretty much a guarantee that any long-term benefits you derive will be entirely happenstance. Anthony D. Ravenscroft
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People who work hard at the things they love are often referred to as over-conscientious. These same people can also be described as obsessive compulsive individuals, or OCD. The idea that we must always be serious about everything has become so strongly engrained in our culture that it is considered normal. However, making fun of these people who work hard for what they love is wrong.

People often say, “If you love something, let it go. Nobody can take it away from you if it’s not yours to begin with.” That is true to an extent, but if you are doing something because you want to have a good time, rather than because you want to succeed, then the whole endeavor is more likely to be pure happenstance.

Source: Polyamory: Roadmaps For The Clueless And Hopeful: An Introduction On Polyamory

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